Unequal relationships are unhealthy and can lead to the powerless partner feeling insecure and having low self-esteem. It can be hard to recognize from the inside.
Feeling worse about yourself when you're around your partner is a sign of power imbalance. If your partner belittles you, it can diminish your power and maintain theirs.
If you begin to question your judgment and feel confused, your partner may be sending indirect or direct messages that they're always right, taking away your self-trust.
Your friends not liking your partner is meaningful and could indicate that they're diminishing you and your power. Friends are a North Star and want what's best for you.
In an unequal relationship, the partner with power often deprioritizes the things you enjoy, leading to a less fulfilling life. You may end up going along with what your partner wants to do.
Feeling powerless can lead to anxiety or depression. When you feel threatened, anxiety kicks in, and if you feel defeated, you may feel low on energy and motivation.
If you can't see how to end the relationship, you may have lost trust in your ability to effect change. You may be so used to being denied that you don't know how to end the relationship and make it stick.
Your power comes from knowing what is best for you and doing what is best for you, regardless of whether you are heard or not. Being heard is not the source of your power.
To take your power back, you need to identify the signs of powerlessness and actively work towards regaining your power.
Start by setting boundaries and asserting your needs and wants in the relationship. It may take time, but don't give up.